Where will you be my darling? Where will you be when the dark is rising?
Monday, March 23, 2009
I wasn't actually planning to blog this (especially at this time), but I figured I wouldn't be in the mood to blog about this another day. And I wanted to address this issue.
I got a little annoyed earlier, because of the assumptions people make. I was listening to Pink's "Family Portrait", the song is about a child talking about her parents splitting up. And well... its a very painful reminder of my parents divorcing. That reminded me of an assumption someone made about my family last time, which pissed me off, considering this person only knew me for like a few week at most. If you ask about my family, I have no problem with it. If you ask about the divorce, I also have no problem telling you about it. But if you assume certain things about my family unncessarily, then I get pissed off. My family is a very touchy subject. And I'm very sensitive to it. I don't mind telling people about it at all, but when people take liberties with concerns to my family, I'm pissed.
This reminded me of another assumption last time. I was a very avid basketball player last time, and a certain classmate always said I sucked and all. One time I was having a competition and it just so happens he was on the opposing team. Some of his teammates knew me and heard all the "he sucks" comments before, so naturally, most of them didn't care about blocking me. While playing, he told them to cover me, because I was very good, and was the most accurate out of my team. Do you know how shocked I was? Here's a guy who's been saying I suck to everyone, but when it really matters, he finally admits I'm good. Okay, it felt good, but his team's assumptions on me pissed me off. I mean, wouldn't you be annoyed at the very least when people say you suck at something?
Then there's assumptions about what you'll do. Where people will naturally assume you'll do or say something. I'm pretty sure this is natural for most people. I'll safely assume that Bill Gates will donate billions every year. I'll safely assume that Mr Jealousy will get jealous (he has a very good track record) for any reason. People safely assume that I will spike my hair everyday. BUT, when you assume that certain problems in my family occur because of my ignorance, I'm pissed. When you assume I'll do something if it benefits you but not for everyone else, I get pissed off. When you assume a certain characteristic about me, I understand because so many people assume the same thing about me, but still, I get annoyed in the least.
The fact that so many people assume so many things about me has helped me from being like them. Because of this, I don't assume unnecessarily. I always think of an alternative reasoning.
If you assume things about me, I can still understand. But if you assume that much from my family... I will take it personally.