Where will you be my darling? Where will you be when the dark is rising?
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Superficial relationships, like I said in my previous post.
Oh, I'm still in my bad mood.
A few days ago, I had a sudden realization that several friendships I thought were close weren't. They were very on the surface. Some seemed deep and genuine, but digging deeper, they were not. Some others were deep, but had many superficial elements in it. Too much. I can understand that some friendships fade over time, and that things are never quite the same after that. I'm not talking about those cases. I'm talking about a mutual friendship that goes deep, or at least seems deep, but in actual fact, it isn't. Or at least, not to the extent I expected.
Take the most recent case. One time a bunch of us wanted to go to Genting during the holidays, and asked a lot of people. Disaster ensued as many couldn't make it. This certain person said she wouldn't go even for one night because she had medication and that she wanted to sleep in her own bed, so don't even bother asking her for Genting. Alright... a few days ago a group of her friends wanted to go Ipoh for 4 days and instantly she joined the bandwagon. Thing is she wasn't allowed to go. And you know what she did? She begged and pleaded with her mom, who didn't allow her, so you know wat she did? She asked me to forge a school field trip letter so that her mom would let her go. 'Nuff said.
And another person. We both said that we'd become close over quite a short period of time. And I thought that yeah, it was true. We shared a lot. Thing is, the only thing we ever talked about deeply was our relationships with other people. Crushes, ex's, and all that stuff. It really was deep and personal stuff. But you know what? That's ALL we ever talked about. Relationships! Any other topic we had was pure boredom and dead. There was nothing interesting shared about families, lives or what. It was just so awkward when no relationship topics were brought up. A bit of humour here and there (mostly from me) but absolutely nothing concrete.
And another one. We seemed to chat very well. We did. We chatted very well. But only on MSN. In real life, there was never much to be said. Maybe 'cause we said so much online? Perhaps, I'll grant that. But if so many topics can be said on MSN, why not real life? Is text and smilies all there is to friendship? I don't think so. If there's a friendship that's great in real life but dull online, I think that's perfectly fine. 'Cause its more genuine. It's really a friendship based upon two people and their personalities, not their words and text. It's best if the communication is strong online and in real life.
There's a lot more superficial friendships or friendships with a lot of superficial elements in it, but they're more minor. These are the major ones that made me have a revelation of how unsolid some frienships were. Not a lot, thankfully, but several, which was enough to worry me.
Let's just see what happens to these friendships.
I assure you, it'll be interesting to see the results of each friendship.