Where will you be my darling? Where will you be when the dark is rising?
Sunday, February 14, 2010
I think this is the first time I've ever experienced Chinese New year and Valentine's Day together.
Seriously. I've never actually celebrated valentine's with my own girl. With girls? Plenty. I celebrated Valentine's with Koh Wee and Yan Ting (Zoe also tagged along) a few years ago. I celebrated Valentine's by hanging out with guys before (we're not gay!) and last year, I celebrated Valentine's with Ai Lee and Anne. Two girls, one guy, lucky me eh? Yeah, and I got whooped in the games all night long too. Geez.
There's not much in Chinese New Year stories. It's mostly the same every year. Visit relatives, collect red packets, catch up with cousins. Yeah. So since it just so happens that the first day of Chinese New Year is also Valentine's Day, I thought I'd share about one of my more recent stories of my love life. One I didn't chronicle on my blog much, if at all. This is about Khar Loo. I have a feeling it's going to be a really, really long post. Thank me if you're bored from seeing your relatives and just happen to be reading my blog. I'll try to make it entertaining =p.
So, let's see... a few "confessions" first? Well, just in case you're confused chronologically, I liked Isabel, then Khar Loo, then Cindy. I know it seems like I skipped from Tiffany to Cindy, but that's because Khar Loo read my blog very often when we got close, and I didn't feel right to put so many personal things to have her read it, so I kept it to a minimum. Most of these were "coded" blog posts anyway. If any of you actually recall me mentioning "Bearer of Christ" or something similar or anything with "Loo", it's almost without a doubt I was referring to her. Now that she doesn't read my blog anymore, in addition to not talking anymore (we only speak a few words when I bump into her in Singapore) I guess it's pretty safe to post it here.
Khar Loo, or in Chinese, Qiao Ru was a person I knew in CHC SG. I heard her name many, many times, but I never actually knew who she was. Funny thing was, we actually had a few combined cellgroup meetings before, and had seen her, but I still never knew who she was. Just a person in church, in the same zone, and that's all I knew. After Isabel and Hui Zhen joined the cellgroup, and I started liking Isabel, I found out she actually knew Khar Loo from her secondary school days, and I finally put two and two together, knowing that a certain girl I'd seen many times was Khar Loo. Still, we never spoke to each other before, and there was not much reason to either.
Then GT Zone tried something new. Using the principle of "iron sharpens iron", Gabriel had every cellgroup in his zone combine with another cellgroup for a few months, in cellgroup meetings, in services, fellowship and in practically everyway. This was to help us know more people in our zone as well as strengthen each other. So my cellgroup E458 was combined with E432, the cellgroup Khar Loo was in. The very first few combined meetings, things weren't that warm between any of the cellgroup members. The people usually stuck with their own respective cellgroups, and mixing was very casual and bland. Only Michelle and Kevin mixed often, as they knew each other for a long time, and Isabel and Khar Loo. Then one day we had a more unique cellgroup meeting, instead of the normal preaching and stuff, it was a Q&A cellgroup, and it was quite a fun one that bonded us more so than the previous cellgroup meetings. After everything ended, a few of us hung back to do some art stuff for something I've forgotten. So due to the smaller number of people, it was slightly easier to chat with the people from the other cellgroup. And I made some small talk with Khar Loo, somehow, I don't remember. That was the very first time we ever spoke.
The next week or so there was a helpers meeting at Hong Kong Cafe in Marina Square. Most of the helpers from E458 couldn't make it, so it was just me and Hui Zhen with Michelle, and on their side it was Kevin, Khar Loo, Khang Leng, Michelle Lee and Ken. Due to convenience of seating, it gave me a chance to talk with the other cellgroup's members more. Um... so you get an idea, the seating was like this: Four on each side. On my side, from left, Hui Zhen, Michelle, me, Michelle Lee. And on the other side, from left, Ken, Kevin, Khar Loo and Khang Leng. So those on my left chatted among themselves, and since I was on the right side, I had E432's girls all to myself *snicker snicker*. So as with any conversation, humour is a great icebreaker so there was this headless terra cotta statue near us (think of Qin Shihuang) and Khar Loo was eating something on a bowl that had a chicken painting on it, like those old bowls you see in Chinatown. Somehow, I made jokes about those two things, and it was pure laughter throughout the meal, with a great conversation with them. Not once did we talk to the other side, who's conversation wasn't quite as "entertaining". Only during the actual discussions of the helper's meeting did we quiet down and listen to the leaders talk. So yeah... this was the very first time I had a good conversation with Khar Loo. That's why I remember so many details =x.
Our friendship only continued to grow after that. I got her number, I forgot how also (I thought I would've remembered, getting her number). And every week, when we'd meet for cellgroup and service, we'd chat more happily and our respective cellgroups were also interacting much more, even spiritually. Although it was kind of "sneaky" though, because we'd never chat very closely with all the people around. It was very casual/friendly, but when there were very few people left, then thing's got more obvious, but people never noticed it anyway. We were that good. Up to the point where she even said she'd buy me a bowl with a chicken design on it. I thought it was a joke, but she was serious. Wow... a reminder of the first time we really connected. Isn't that a hopeful sign?
Then came the whole issue of me moving to KL to study, and leaving behind my life in Singapore. *Sigh*...
I had also ended up getting Khar Loo's email address, and added her on MSN. I don't remember how I got it too, 'cause she's the only one from E432 I added in MSN =/. If it was a group thing, I woulda gotten the other member's emails too. So anyway, although I added her in MSN, we never chatted online, because during the weekends I'd go back to JB, where I had no internet access, while during the weekends she went back to her parents house, which had internet access, but during the weekdays she spent her time in her aunt's place which had no internet access, which was a total bummer 'cause the weekdays were when I was in Singapore, where I had my internet. One weekend though I ended up staying in Singapore instead of going back to JB, and I saw her online for the first time. Our chats in real life seamlessly flowed through the keyboard as we chatted very well online too. We chatted from past midnight to 3am. And it wasn't those conversations where one of us woiuld reply like 5 minutes later, or go off for a while and come back. I'm looking at our chat log as I'm typing this. The longest delay in our conversations was just a minute and a half. Imagine chatting for over 2 hours, almost continuously. It was a great, great talk with her.
The following week, it was probably the most romantic time I had with her. Sort of. I don't know. I'll type it down, you can judge. She finally bought me the bowl and wanted to pass it to me, so we agreed to meet up at City Hall MRT and walk over to Riverwalk for our Bible study classes. She gave me a shoebox with the bowl, Brand's Essence of Chicken and a letter written inside it. So we walked, and chatted about a lot of stuff, about her past, deaths of relatives and a lot of other deep stuff. And I read the letter. If you've ever walked from City Hall to Riverwalk, you'd know how beautiful the path is during evening time. Add to the fact you're walking with the girl you like while the sun is setting, having a great time sharing about so much things and she's just given you a gift (don't forget the letter inside). Now how can you beat that?
We went inside and acted like nothing happened =x, and then after Bible study, since we were in different classes, we didn't see each other after that. My cellgroup was all wondering why was I carrying a shoebox around? I just said it was a gift, and they all asked from who?! HAHA! I don't lie, so I told them (quite reluctantly though) that it was from Khar Loo. They were all shocked and were like did you even chat with her? Didn't you know were close and all that. Like I said, we were that good.
That day's romantic stroll was the last time I saw her before moving to Kuala Lumpur.
And then this happened.
Haha! Of course there's still more to it. I'll mention part two another day. To be continued!