Where will you be my darling? Where will you be when the dark is rising?
Monday, February 14, 2011
Valentine's, Valentine's, Valentine's.
The 14th of February, which also happens to be my paternal grandmother's birthday. It's a day that couples love, and singles hate. I remember watching the movie "Valentine's Day", the one with the huge star-studded cast. In it, there was a part where Jessica Biel organizes an anti-Valentine's Day party and has a pinata that people can whack. I'd so love that right now. Haha.
I always make jokes about Valentine's, 'cause I've never properly celebrated it. Back in kindergarten and primary school, we'd make cards and give them to everyone in the class. It was a cute thing we did, and since none of us hit puberty yet, it wasn't a big deal. Some people went "ewww" at the thought of giving the opposite gender something. Lmao. As we grow older, more people want to celebrate valentine's with their other half. Or at least, the person they love.
My Valentine's Days have been weird. Most of the time. A few years back, there were two Valentine's where I actually celebrated with a couple. Yeah. A couple celebrated and I joined them. What the hell right? I felt like a big lightbulb, and it makes me puke seeing them so lovey dovey in front of me. They were good times spent though. I thoroughly enjoyed the time hanging out with them, even though I felt like an interruption on their special day. Yet they had no problem, and were the ones who invited me along. Two years back, I spent Valentine's Day with two girls, and had a good time hanging out. We were all single, but hey, I had two girls =p. Last year it was on the same day as the first day of Chinese New Year, so I visited relatives. My cute little cousin Zhu Xin, who was 5, held my hands, kissed me, hugged me and basically was a girlfriend. No, I am not a pedophile. Lol. I also blogged about the entire Khar Loo saga, and that led to a series of emails between us, where we defined what our friendship was. Despite half a year of exchanges, we never solved it. Now, we don't talk anymore. We don't even wave.
I know Valentine's can also be for friendship love and all that. But seriously? I know that it sounds logical and stuff, but no one seriously wants to celebrate Valentine's Day with their friends. They want it with their lovers. People will say it can be for friendship, and doubtlessly, it can. But I can speak for the vast majority when I say that its not what they prefer. The people who truly believe it can be for friendship are the people who already have a lover to celebrate with, or a very small minority who actually believe the friendship-ish part of it. We will celebrate with our friends if we have no other person to celebrate with, but I can be sure that if you had someone to celebrate with, friends would take a backseat just for this day.
I recently had a talk with my friend who said she believes I'll never get a girlfriend again. Haha. I don't quite blame her. She's got pathetic intelligence and is extremely immature. However, she's a good friend, so credits to that. I've liked 4 people since moving to Kuala Lumpur. Firstly, was Cindy. We know how that ended, when she brought two guys for a movie I asked her out for. So, I gave up, 'cause she likes Chee Meng. Then I liked Kai Yih, and I found out she had a boyfriend. Great. So I liked Shana, and she moved to USA. Then I liked Sze Ying, and till now, there's been no proper closure. Even after seeing her again last week. Just 4 people and my friend judges so easily. Heh... I didn't even woo these girls much anyway. I kept it natural and friendly. And I guess that's a good thing, considering all the circumstances that happened. So I only failed when it came to Cindy, and my friend believes I'll never get attached again. Of course, she was never in my situation, so I don't blame her. And again, she's got pathetic intelligence, so again, more grace.
However, I must admit I was a little annoyed at that remark. Wouldn't people get offended if they told you something that basically meant "Hey you suck with girls!"? Granted, I know she's really stupid and immature, but even then, obviously I wasn't pleased with that statement. Why? Because I'm pretty good at flirting. Socially, and casually. Not the manipulating with emotions kind. I meet new people all the time, and hang out all the time as well, with many, many groups of friends. Along the way, I meet many new people as well. There's always a very fun interaction when both parties casually flirt. And I've done plenty of that. And I still do, when I meet new girls. When it comes to guys, of course I don't flirt; but its good to chat and know them better as friends as well. I've gotten very accustomed to flirting around with anyone I want to, and enjoying drinking games and physical interactions with anyone I want to, wherever I want to, without having a worry of my other half. My social skills are great, if I do say so myself, and it only keeps improving with all the socializing I do and the process of meeting new people all the time. Plus, I've found out that a few people liked me before anyway, so I guess I must be doing something right.
Haha... I guess my previous paragraph was more like defending myself. I'm famous for blasting people (and at many times, it goes over the limit) so yeah. Anyhoo, people always have a list of what they want their future spouse to be. One thing that Pastor Kevin said on the Valentine's service was "Don't fall in love with your list". I know way too many people who are picky because some guy or girl doesn't match up to their expectations. They love their list of qualities so much they forget about real human beings. I mean, sure, you want a guy who can cook, considerate, tall, dark handsome, whatever. But then again, what makes you think that you deserve a person of such high quality? Do you think you match up to their list? People only think of what they want for themselves. Same for friendships. Sure, you met a great group of people. You say to yourself this is a group of people who are worthy to be my friends. Excuse me? Worthy? What makes you think you're worthy enough to be their friend?
So yeah, here's my Valentine's post. I came up with all this in like half an hour. A bit of ranting in the last part I guess? Haha.
And one last bit, anyone who says everyday should be Valentine's Day has no brains whatsoever.